My husband and I are musicians. And we’re parents. When we are onstage, we do our best to really be ON stage. But all our “backstage” experiences with our son (our little frog) deeply affect who we are as people, thus musicians. Recent insights:
Getting ready to board a plane withOUT my toddler. If only people had told me how easy travelling and scheduling was before we had our son?! When I think about how I squandered my time, how I complained about how busy I was…
I guess my parent pals didn’t mention how easy I had it, because they thought it might be self righteous, presumptuous? Dudes, I wish you’d said something!
But here I am–more efficient at office work than I’ve ever been, and using every spare moment away from my kid to get caught up, get exercise, get a little rest.
If I’d known, would I have worked more? Or enjoyed the space, time? Well, this is how it’s gone. And meanwhile my parent friends with two and three kids don’t sit around telling me how easy I have it with JUST ONE KID.
We are all so kind to each other (usually). And we are all doing our best (usually). This blog post is rushed and NOT my best; but it’s present. And I guess that’s what doing your deal with or without kids is all about!