My husband and I are musicians. And we’re parents. Our “backstage” experiences with our son (our little frog) deeply affect who we are. Recent insights:
Sometimes I learn about what I really WANT to do when I see someone doing something that doesn’t rock for me.
For example, one of my relatives once told me her dog was afraid of black people.
And another pal recently told me his kid is afraid of all men.
Well, the dog and the little kid may or may not have internalized some weird vibes along the way. Maybe the dog hung out with a racist owner. Maybe the kid hung out with a sitter who practiced intense misandry.
No matter what, TELLING people about these alleged biases is a pretty effective way of reinforcing them. NO dog or child needs to hear he is racist or man-hating!!
I am up for putting energy on the stuff I really want. And overlooking the stuff that is not wonderful. Tonight I celebrate my creative problem solving spirit, instead of dwelling on my penchant for impatience.